Last time you learned an important lesson. Namely, that you shouldn’t put off your happiness until you achieve your goals. Instead, you should choose to be happy today, as doing so will make you motivated to achieve your goals. Let’s continue…
You probably feel that others have hurt you, been mean to you, or in other ways “wronged” you over the years. And you may still be carrying around a lot of anger and resentment at these people.
But here’s the thing…
Anger is a huge energy vampire. When you’re angry, your motivation bottoms out. Your productivity flattens. Every moment you spend thinking about the other person or the situation is one less moment that you could have used to step closer to your goals.
That’s not all. When you’re angry at another person, it does absolutely nothing to rectify the situation. It doesn’t lessen your anger to think about the person – indeed, you probably just get more angry whenever you think about it. As the old saying goes, “Being angry is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” In other words, your anger is toxic to you.
So here’s what you need to do: Forgive the other person. Admit that the person is imperfect (like everyone else). Don’t judge them for their actions. Instead, focus on forgiveness.
If you feel you’ve been hurt deeply, you may need to do daily affirmations or even meditations. For example, focus on radiating a loving feeling towards the other person while doing a mantra such as, “I forgive you [name].”
TIP: If you’re religious or you believe in a higher power, then pray to that higher power for the strength to offer true forgiveness.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to let them back in your life (although you certainly can). Mainly, it just means you let go of the anger in your heart so that you can move on with your life… and start working towards your dreams!
Focusing On What’s Important
Another way to get happier, get more motivated and boost your productivity is to focus on what’s important. In other words, don’t spend a lot of time focusing on the trivial matters. Don’t let energy vampires suck you into their dramas. Don’t let other people’s problems become your problems.
All of this is easier said than done, of course. But if you ever find yourself sidetracked or derailed when you should be working towards your goal, you need to ask yourself if whatever sidetracked you is more important than your goal. If the answer is no, then you need to focus on what’s important.
Now, in order to do this with confidence, you need to rank those things in your life that are truly important. Go ahead and do that right now by listing out all the things that matter to you, including:
- Your family members.
- Your friends.
- Your goals.
- Your home.
- Your financial security.
- Your health.
- Your free time (hobbies).
- Your independence.
And so on. Then rank these items in order of importance. That way, the next time you get sidetracked you’ll know instantly if you’re focusing on something important – something that adds to your happiness – or if you’re just procrastinating.
That’s it for this time. Stay tuned for the next lesson where you’ll discover my best tip for getting happy to get motivated!